Happy New Year
One of the curiosities about New Year's Resolutions is the unspoken belief that new and better ideas are always coming to the fore. I hope that is true, but my advice is always a hash of old suggestions:
“You only have to do a very few things right in your life so long as you do not do too many things wrong,” --Buffett
Seek fulfillment. Emphasize safety.
The great Old and New Testament sin is pride; the great sin of the doomed Greek was anger engendered by pride. These geniuses were not kidding.
Do not go out of the house in your pajamas.
Spend less than you earn.
There are better ways to do military-type lifts that pressure bones and joints but no good reason to do them at all.
Find a good podcast.
Keep boundaries. Always reassess them.
One thing at a time. Multitasking is terribly inefficient.
Do not be on time, be early.
Never use the phone at social events, dinner, or in elevators.
Keep up-to-date phone numbers and addresses of friends. Use them. Keep up with old friends with a line or e-mail; do not let them slip away.
Get seven hours of sleep a day.
Use audiobooks.
The time before and after exercise is essential. Warm up and cool down.
People will not remember presents, but they will remember how you made them feel.
Ours is a period of downgrading. Start a mild upgrade with more effort on appearance. It may catch on.
Do not phone from the bathroom.
A first date should always be coffee or lunch.
Do not read anything other than menus while eating a meal with others.
Regularly pay off your debt, even bit by bit.
Sign all petitions and always vote "no."
Build a good wardrobe, one good piece at a time.
Do not put ice in wine. If the wine is not cool enough, go to a better place.
Angry people are usually entertaining but avoid them after 6 o'clock.
Read a formal literary effort, a book, essay, or play, a little bit every day.
Wake up. Early. The day will be nice and long and full of opportunities.
Go to bed at a reasonable time. Anything that happens late at night is because the perpetrators think no one is watching.
Do not name your children after large cities in Texas. Or European cheeses.
If you are going to drink alcohol, drink only good alcohol. Never drink something because it is there.
Never drink alcohol because you "don't want to waste it."
Never forget, alcohol is a neurotoxin.
Generalizations are verboten in our time. Nonetheless, the Irish have an inordinate appreciation of alcohol. Watch it.
Memorize one insightful quote or poetry line every week.
Do not run at night wearing black.
Have your teeth cleaned every six months.
Make a budget. The discipline alone is helpful.
Set aside a percentage for two groups of savings. Use one account to go to when necessary for a big purchase or a surprise problem. Use the other one for retirement. Never touch the second one.
People tend to like what they do when they are good at it. So, be good at your job and your diversions.
Always get the cost of goods or services upfront. This is especially true of lawyers.
When traveling:
Never travel without a phone that works.
Always, always get the harbormaster's number when you leave a ship.
Never travel alone to an area where you do not know the language or the alphabet.
Always travel with enough money.
Avoid areas where you might depend upon the goodwill of people with old political grudges towards some group you remotely resemble.
Again, always, always get the harbormaster's number when you leave a ship.
Buy one tailor-made piece of clothing to see the difference from retail.
Floss.
"To trace something unknown back to something known is alleviating, soothing, gratifying, and gives moreover a feeling of power. Danger, disquiet, anxiety attend the unknown - the first instinct is to eliminate these distressing states. First principle: any explanation is better than none." (Friedrich Nietzsche)
Remember this when attacking another's beliefs. You are attacking more than his intellectual position, you are attacking his area of comfort and command.
Save 10% of your income for retirement.
And some book suggestions and comments:
Feral Detective by the usually reliable Jonathan. Obscure motives of leadened characters. I couldn't finish it.
Dragon Tattoo series. The first three, by Larsson, are terrific. And this was his first fiction. The others were distracting enough.
Curiosity Shop. This is one of Dickens' rare controversial books: is it 10 of 10 or only 8? True, it is a bit more heavy-handed than his usual, but...he did almost invent the form.
We Have Always Lived in a Castle, Shirley Jackson: Very good from the author of The Lottery.
Bell Jar, Plath. I know coming-of-age crises in young women is current and important, but I did not finish it.
Sea of Tranquility, Mandel. From the Station Eleven lady. Very complex, high-level, and aggressive topic--multiple universes. Much more than I expected.
Never Let Me Go, Ishiguro. Very good. Surprising element of the fantastic.
Human Acts, Han Kang. A vicious account of South Korea's counter-revolution. More personal than Rape of Nanjing, but not with the impact. Still, insomnia-giving.
Bunker Hill, Philbrick. A good account of a tremendous event in history.
Zero K, Delillo, The Strike Series, Galbreith, and The Gone World, Sweterlitsch were my three favorites this year (recognizing I love Dickens) Zero K is a modern, spare everyman story that is very cleverly constructed as it describes the life of a non-combatant in a very confrontational world. The Strike series is by JK Rowling under a pen name. This woman just doesn't know her place. After immortalizing herself with Potter, she decides to try detective stories. She has some biases--she hates aristocracy and thinks identity a shallow assessment tool--but they are just great. The second, Silkworm, is a bit rough but this woman can write. The third, Gone World, is an obscure mukti-universe story by an obscure Pittsburgh author. I loved it, but in truth, this is a dense, confusing book and is not for everyone.
Paul's Letter to the Galatians says that Christ on earth means that all men are adopted sons of God, heirs to His infinite creation.
So every man, regardless of station or circumstance, wealth or heritage, birthright or appearance, sickness or health is equal in the eyes of God. There have been a lot of notions--from nihilism to castes, from divine right to class conflict, from Freud to Malthus--that have come down the pike since the beginning of recorded time but has there ever been a more radical, more hopeful, more optimistic idea than that? And could there be a better thought to start the new year?
And how could the vicious alternatives compete with it?
Happy New Year.